Monday, June 15, 2009

A Day to Honor All Love


On June 12, 1967, the U.S. Supreme Court declared unconstitutional all race-based restrictions on marriage. Thank you to Mildred and Richard Loving for standing up for your love and in the process, standing up for mine.

The Wedding Loving v. Virginia was an important Supreme Court case, but it was also the story of a real couple. Mildred Jeter and Richard Loving grew up in Caroline County, Virginia. They fell in love and decided to get married. Unfortunately, getting married was not as simple in 1958 as it was today. Mildred was black and Richard was white. There were laws that forbade people of different races to marry each other. This was true in many states, including Mildred and Richard's home state of Virginia. However, interracial marriage was legal in Washington, DC at that time. Therefore, they decided to drive to DC, get married, and return to Virginia to begin their life together.

This proved to be a short term solution. The law in Virginia not only forbade interracial marriage ceremonies, but it also forbade interracial couples from getting married elsewhere and returning to Virginia. One night, while they were asleep, the newly-married Lovings were awakened by the police in their bedroom. The Lovings were taken to jail for the crime of being married.

The Trial When they went to trial, the judge found them guilty and sentenced them to a jail term of one to three years. However, the judge told the Lovings that he would suspend the sentence if they agreed to leave Virginia for a period of twenty five years. Given the choice between imprisonment and banishment, they chose banishment. The Lovings moved to Washington, DC.

The Legal Battle The Lovings were able to live together legally in Washington, but they did not have an easy time. They faced discrimination everywhere. They were not able to rent property in most parts of the city, and they were often the target of racist taunting. Also, they were facing the emotional hardship of separation from their families. Life was both difficult and unpleasant for the Lovings in Washington. They were having difficulty supporting their children. In desperation, Mildred sent a letter to Robert F. Kennedy, Attorney General of the United States.
Mildred's letter was forwarded from the Attorney General's office to the offices of the ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union) in New York. They took interest in the Loving's case and helped them find an attorney. Two lawyers, Bernard S. Cohen and Philip J. Hirschkop, also felt that the Lovings were entitled to be married and to live in the state of their choice. They agreed to work on the Loving's case for free.

Their case went through many levels of the justice system and their appeal was denied every time. Eventually their case appeared before the United States Supreme Court. The Court decided unanimously in their favor. Finally, after nine years of struggle, the Loving won the right to live together as husband and wife in their home state. In the words of Chief Justice Earl Warren, "Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides within the individual and cannot be infringed on by the State."

The Victory The Loving's case not only won them their freedom to love, but it also granted the same freedom to every interracial couple in every state in America. At the time of the Loving decision, sixteen states from Delaware to Texas had laws banning interracial couples. Loving v. Virginia (1967) made it illegal for these states to enforce those laws. This ended a long era of laws that were enforced in forty-two states over the course of American history. These laws did not only apply to black people and white people; many states also restricted relationships with Asians, Native Americans, Indians, Hispanics, and other ethnic groups.

The freedom to love is something most of us take for granted. Like many other freedoms, the right for interracial couples to be together was fought for and won as a part of our civil rights. Many people see this as the longest-lasting part of the legal segregation that used to rule our nation. The Lovings, like Rosa Parks, played an important role in freeing us from laws that punished people for no other reason than the color of their skin.
Source: http://www.lovingday.org/the-loving-story
Thanks to august15bride for her post which is reposted here.
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At our ceremony, Groom and I are having empty chairs in our first row to memorialize our passed loved ones. We will also be honoring Mr. and Mrs. Loving with memorial chairs. Will you be having empty seats for your passed loved ones? Or are you honoring them in another special way? Please share!

Sunday, June 14, 2009

And Some More!















These gorgeous shots were taken by Todd Wilson with Celebrations of Tampa Bay!


Engagement Photos!!!!

I know, I know... I haven't updated you in so long! I have so many updates but haven't had time to blog.. Alas, I make you wait no longer. Here are some of our engagement photos!




Saturday, May 23, 2009

Bridesmaid Dresses? Check!

Today we went bridesmaid dress shopping!  I have been so excited all week since I heard that all of my girls were gonna be able to go shopping today (with the exception of my sis who is out of state, boo).  

It was such a super fun day!  I have to tell you that I LOVE my bridesmaids!  These amazing women come from all areas of my life.  None of them have really spent any time together but they all got along from first sight!  I am so happy that this wedding will also serve as an opportunity for the women I most love to learn more about each other.  

We went to the White House Black Market Outlet at Ellenton.  One of my favorite stores of all time is WHBM.  Their look is just so timeless (enter laughter from my girls, who heard me use this word numerous times throughout the day).  My colors are black, red, white or cream, and possibly some gold accents.  I thought this was the perfect place for us to start.  The dresses are all so reasonable and everything they have falls within our color scheme.

My girls were worried about the likeliness of them finding matching/coordinating dresses but I wasn't swayed.  I told them that all black dresses probably would be best at this time since I haven't picked my gown, but I was open.  They asked me whether they should wear the same material?  I told them don't worry about it, we would see what they picked and if they worked together.  

My gut was right on!  They picked out gorgeous dresses and almost all of them matched even before they tried them on.  All 5 of us (3 girls, plus me and mom) worked together to find two extremely similar styles that really compliment each other!  The girls tried them on and they all looked stunning!  

Amazing!  This could not have been much easier.  We found perfect dresses for all of my girls within a half an hour.  Who has even heard of such a thing?

The best thing about the dresses, besides that my knockout bridesmaids will rock them is that 
they can wear the time and time again!  These are perfect for so many occassions from weddings, to cocktail parties, to just nights on the town with their sweeties.  All this came with a price tag that kept them smiling.  

I can't express how excited I am to have my these ladies stand by my side at my wedding but to boot, I know they are going to look spectacular in dresses they love too!  

This is one of the dresses..  The other one isn't listed online at this time.  



















Find this at www.whitehouseblackmarket.com

Share your story about finding your bridesmaid dresses!  

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

A call for advice - on the dress

The biggest news of the day is that my mom came down to visit!!! This highly anticipated arrival almost didn't occur (mom forgot her id at home and had to run back!). Alas, she arrived on time and we were on to our day of wedding planning!



Our first stop was to meet the planner at the ceremony/reception location. It was as beautiful as I remembered it. A bonus was that people were getting ready for an event taking place tonight. The benefit was that there were several tables dotting the floor plan that really helped me visualize our set up.



Mom and I then went off dress shopping! The history of dress shopping is that I have fallen in love with the first dress I tried on. Of course, a future bride can't buy the first one she tries on! She needs to test the waters. When else will you have an entire shop cooing over you? However, future brides beware, I now have 3 dresses I am in love with. The pathetic thing is that they are all different styles. I have found some very basic commonalities but for the most part the are drastically different.



Here is a random dress I found, just to catch your eye.. This gives no indication of what I am leaning towards, sorry Groomzilla!!


Find this dress at www.davincibridal.com.




So does anyone have any advice on dress shopping? I am stuck!

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Something Old?

Even though I don't have a proper picture to accompany this post, I had to share the story. Today my mom called me and told me that my grandmother gave her my 1st Holy Communion dress I wore in the second grade. My grandmother said that it was for my flower girl to wear at my wedding.

This means so much to me, I can't even express it. You see, my grandmother has never been on a plane. She has a hard time getting along these days and will not be able to travel from Ohio to Florida for the wedding. My grandparents mean so much to me and knowing that they will not be there for my wedding hurts. But this thoughtfulness from my grandmother will remain in my mind through my wedding day. I didn't know that dress was still around, much less that my grandmother was planning on pulling it out for such an occassion.

We haven't planned on having a flower girl but now with my mom bringing my old dress down from Ohio next week, I am resolute in finding a proper place for it on my wedding day. You see, that dress will serve as a visual reminder that my grandparents are there with me and they love and support me that day and forever.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

My First Redaction

It has come to my attention, (sorry dad, lol) that I misstated my dad's classic car year. You see, I had the year as a 1956 and his is actually a 1957. As you can see from the picture, this year is way cooler! I should have totally recognized the back of the car was totally different, but alas, it has been some time since I saw that beauty. Nevertheless, this is my blogs first redaction. Check out this classic automobile! Dang it is a beauty...

Before my dad corrects me again, I must advise that this also may not be exactly like his car. Ford made a retractable roof convertible which was far more popular than my dad's hard top. The cool thing about classic cars is that if they were less popular in their day, they are likely more popular now because there are fewer of them. Gotta love the revenge of the nerd!